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This is a common practice among many. It is pretty interesting that this is the time of year that is chosen to make a decision of change. Any year, month, week, day, hour or minute can be a decision making event. Not just at the end of the year. A study was conducted among 3000 persons whose New Year’s resolutions were recorded and followed through, in the year of 2007. Here is a quote of the results:
The web address above gives some great insight on how to raise the success of meeting your resolution goals. I will not vs. I will Reward 1. Choose a small reward you enjoy and is not a contradiction to your resolution. Suggestion for rewards: Progression What are some pointers you can share on making New Year’s resolutions? I would love to hear from you!
All of a sudden a line of thought came to me so strong that it changed the direction of what I would post next. Here we go! Influence is sought for many different reasons. Among those reasons are to be heard, for recognition, protection, revenge, advancement, and so on. People seek to gain influence through different means as well. Some of the ways people seek to gain influence are through legal, criminal, educational, family ties, and monetary means. Submission: A bad word? Besides the obvious potential of abuse; I believe that we have placed such a high view of independence that we have ignorantly, to our own hurt, ignored our interdependencies. We tend to not acknowledge our differences and contributions in the name of being fair and equal. We are forgetting the truth that we are born in different families, have different physical attributes, economics, mentalities, and social norms. I am not saying that there is not a baseline of human dignity and respect we should share. I am saying we try to make people fit in a place that many times cause them to miss the opportunity of where they should be. All in the name of the illusion called fairness. Real Deal I submit to the laws of the USA to be able to enjoy the privileges of living within its borders. This does not diminish me. It defines the relationship we have and the roles in which each behave. Submission is not the absence of disagreement; but the acceptance that someone must have the role to make a decision to move any relationship forward with a high understanding that those in submission must be respected and protected. Submission is not about who is better, but who is better suited in a position to move the relationship forward. Sometimes whom the decision originates from may change depending on the variables confronting the relationship. Yet there must be an overall role definition for clear communication of responsibility. This is to the benefit of both in the relationship. Don’t Tread On Me Submission is what allows work and achievement to take place. Someone has to lead according to responsibility, ability, and cooperation. Others then compliment the leadership so that success is achieved and shared in the relationship. Yet the complimentary has great influence because the leader relies upon them for what the leader’s vision cannot see. Secret of Influence of Submission Final Word I would love to hear from you, whether in agreement or disagreement. Let’s hear your side. ![Reblog this post [with Zemanta]](http://img.zemanta.com/reblog_b.png?x-id=a5d3421d-f43d-4fc8-a787-ba611ee09b5e)
Ways to Build Self Esteem All of the above can be positive in causing someone to have a good feeling about who they are. Many times we picture good things happening to a person, believing these things result in a high self esteem. Truth is the additional variable of firmness, created by engaging uncertainty, threat of loss, fear and even pain can bring us to a high level of self esteem. Abuse or Firmness A great example is found in the movie Miracle. This was the story about the 1980 championship of the men’s USA Olympic Hockey team. The gold medal was won against a stronger, larger and more experienced opponent. It was the emotional and mental toughness created by extreme physical rigor that built high levels of endurance. This in turn raised the self esteem of each individual on the team. Firmness is a component that must never be taken out of the equation in building self-esteem. While positives are the fuel of self esteem. Firmness builds the muscle and strength of self esteem. Sometimes life gives opportunities for self esteem to be built in very extreme events. A Firm Chill These types of events are what create and bring out the firmness that builds self esteem. I watched people help each other with a resolute understanding that the reality of freezing was real. Under normal circumstances there would have not been any interaction at this level. There was a common understanding that you just don’t pass by someone in need, but you do whatever you can to help. Some helped to dig each other out from the ice prison their homes had become. People even had to stay at the home of strangers because their own homes were too far away for walking. Why do these times have such an effect? I believe it is because during crises all the comforts that are reflective of self pleasure are suspended due to the knowledge that greater values are at risk. Facing this risk is the firmness we need that remains entrenched in our memory and bring out the honorable efforts that are foundational to a high self esteem. What are the events and times that firmness aided in building your self esteem? I would love to hear your own experiences. ![Reblog this post [with Zemanta]](http://img.zemanta.com/reblog_b.png?x-id=e420a2cd-9fd4-4fb9-a57b-c1c06a96aeca)
1. An overall evaluation or appraisal of person’s own worth. 2. Self esteem is a confidence in our ability to think, to cope with the basic challenges of life and confidence in our right to be successful and happy. ~Nathaniel Branden 3. a confidence and satisfaction in oneself What makes it interesting? Self-esteem is interesting because people define it differently. It is similar to the term “attitude”. You can have a positive one or a negative one. Self-esteem is talked about in terms of good or low self-esteem. Isn’t it funny that we can say words that are opposite to describe the “attitude” of someone, yet in terms of the self-esteem we say “low” but not “high”? Another interesting thing about self-esteem is that we treat self-esteem as if it defines the whole person as opposed to a portion of their life. I have known people that seem to have poor self-esteem around adults and were “Joe Conqueror” around kids. I have also seen the opposite where it was around the children that there seem to be cracks in a person’s thoughts about themselves. Have you heard that when you have great self-esteem you are arrogant or that it is a sign of poor self-esteem? You get the point. It can be subjective. The only way you really know is by observing someone over time. A person’s self-esteem is indicated by a pattern of how they express thoughts about themselves. So you have to watch or you may judge someone just for being a quiet confident person as having poor self-esteem. Some Myths about Self-Esteem If you speak confidently you have great self-esteem. Have you ever thought this is a way to cover low self-esteem? So what do we know? Many times self-esteem is expressed by your responses and reaction to others. Do you relent from voicing your convictions when you are around certain people because you feel they may ridicule you? If so, you may need to build your self-esteem because right or wrong we all should be heard. Do you avoid confrontation when you know someone is wrong and it is harmful? Is your response to just turn away or do you feel moved to speak up and do so? One of the truest signs of a good self-esteem is transparency. This means what people see in you is truly who you are. You are being the best you can. Acknowledging your faults and yet recognizing you are just as deserving of experiencing life as the next person. Yet you do not believe you are better than the next person. You laugh at yourself. You empathize with another. You listen to the voice of wisdom and experience with respect to learn. Yet you know your own contributions to the discussion. You are going to be the best you can be at the present and seek to be more thereafter. I will be writing next on how positive firmness in our life affects self-esteem. You will not want to miss it. Share your comments and subscribe to Maxaficationize Your Life. ![Reblog this post [with Zemanta]](http://img.zemanta.com/reblog_b.png?x-id=117f7347-0523-420e-882a-1013a97fe7e8) |
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I hope you enjoyed the first part of Impacting Your Self Esteem! I want to talk about how positive firmness raises our self esteem. Raising the self esteem of persons has been a goal of educators, positive mental attitude gurus, religions, and self help professionals. It is believed that when the self esteem of someone is raised they will become successful in whatever they endeavor to do.
Self-esteem is a term we hear often and a subject spoken and written about. I recently heard a minister talk about self esteem and I believe he brought some points out that just are not applicable to what he sees in the church but in society in general. So that we are talking about the same thing I want to define the phrase self-esteem. How about looking at 3 definitions:
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