Maxafication-ize Your Life

You have a friend. You have observed something that your friend should change that will really help them if it is received. Though you are not sure of several things:

How will the friend react to the information?
Are they aware of what is going on?
Will they ignore the information?
Will they resent you for telling them?
Does this spell the end of your friendship?
Will this information hurt them and cause pain?

These are often the things that our friends go through when having to share something important about us, to us.
Let me say if you are asking yourself these questions, Congratulations! You are a friend. I have heard of several ways people think of sharing information to a friend about themselves. This may have gone through your mind as well.
Here is how some of it goes.

If they are really my friend, they will hear me out?

Be careful depending on the day, week, and month; and how the other parts of your friend’s life is going. You may become the outlet for their frustration. Pick and choose the time of your sharing during a not so sensitive time.

I won’t say anything and that way nothing will happen.

Think again. If it is something you see in your friend, others do as well. Others who are not friends will not be careful or tactful in how they share the information with your friend. The key is you will be there after the information is shared. They will not.

They never listen to me anyway

This may seem to be justified, but only seems. Your friend many times hears what you say even though they may not acknowledge it; though if they do not hear you out, you may need to evaluate your friendship. The point is you still have to try.

Why does it have to be me who tells them?

Hey stop being playing the victim! Friendship is not without responsibility. That is why it is so cherished. It is not just about the fun and good times. It is during the worst times that you are most valuable. With anything valuable there is risk. Here is where I get to use one of my wise sayings.

“A friend is a person who tells you the truth, yet if it hurts, is willing to share the pain with you”

Don’t forget your value is that you don’t run at the first sign of rain. Stick with your friend. If they don’t hear you and desire to break it off. Don’t despair, give it time. You may find you have a more valuable and deeper relationship in the future.

Final word is to remember to give the same you would expect and then add a bit more patience, love, kindness, and honesty.

Do you agree or am I just “Lost in Space”. Tell me how you cope with giving a friend touchy advise?